If the relationship is not working, get out! If it sucks, blow that pop stand!
That would be a sentence I would scream from the top of a hill if I could. If a relationship is not going anywhere, ladies you should take the time now to walk away from it.
However, the problem remains regardless of how loud I scream or how many friends I have helped, They will always say that this guy is worth saving, he’s worth the effort, and this relationship is something I want. However, they fail to realize that the relationship may already be over.
If we find ourselves in a nasty situation, how hard is it for us to realize and comprehend that yes, our partner may be the one to blame? I mean, it’s not really you; it’s him. There’s nothing you can do in this world that will change the situation as it is, no matter what you do. When a relationship ends, it’s usually for good.
Every day I support women and help guide or coach them through situations like this. In fact, this is often the topic of my sessions. It is about men who don’t treat their girlfriends or wives as they should. Although I feel extreme frustration in these kinds of situations, as a human being I realize that there are underlying motives and reasons for these behaviors. It’s not just self-loathing or low self-esteem that is to blame for these issues. The root causes are often far more complex.
I think that as women, we are taught to protect and rescue our relationships from an early age. For instance, if we see our mom or caregiver doing this to our dad, or maybe even to her boyfriend. As we grow older and face similar situations in life, we remember experiences like that. We remember thinking that if things don’t go well in a relationship, our partner might leave us.
During my childhood, I remember seeing my parents fighting one time. As a young woman, I thought I would never argue with my husband when I had one. At that age, I thought my mother was to blame for them arguing. Unfortunately, until I found the man of my dreams, I was that good little girl who suffered or got cheated on throughout my love life.
One day we understand the lesson, and that’s exactly what happened to me. I learned that that wasn’t the way things were supposed to be. Relationships have two major players that play a huge role in making things work. The success of the relationship depends on both partners working together. If one of the partners doesn’t want to be a part of the partnership, none of us have the magic powers to make them want to be part of it.
This is why it’s important to sometimes let our heads lead rather than our hearts. Some women, but not all, will try to convince the man that there is no better partner than them. A lot of women will say “why doesn’t he just take a moment and realize how lucky he is to have me in his life?” And that might be true. However, it comes down to how do you use logic and rational thinking to convince somebody to love you? Should that be the case?
The emotion of love is not based on rational logic. Love is the essence of feeling, it’s the spirit inside of us. It’s not something that we wake up one day and say, “I’m going to end up loving this person.”.
We don’t need to spend time ticking off all the qualities that he brings to our lives.
It gets to the point where some women feel as if they have to be the man’s therapist. Even though he’s the one causing these problems, it’s almost like she wants to counsel the poor guy. Her theory is that he may be suffering from depression and anxiety, which is why he no longer wants to be with her. She tries to find a counselor or psychologist to help him out. If the love is gone, he won’t go to the therapist, he’s too stubborn. Completely hard-headed. If he cares he will.
The only person whose head gets messed up by the situation is you. Go out and do yourself a favor. Live your life. Meet new people, go to the gym, and enjoy yourself. Live for yourself and take care of your own interests. Because if this relationship was meant to be, this guy will come back. If he does come back, then move on from there with a plan.
If he doesn’t come back, you haven’t wasted any more of your precious time waiting and praying for a moment that may or may not come. Get your life back.
To sum it all up
There’s no denying that when it comes to relationships, things can get tough. But if you find yourself in a situation where the relationship is not good, it might be time to get out.
It can be hard to admit that things aren’t working, but it’s important to remember that you deserve happiness and love in your life. If the relationship is causing you more pain than happiness, then it might be time to move on.
Of course, this isn’t easy – breaking up is never easy. But if the relationship isn’t good for you, then it’s time to end it and focus on finding someone who will make you happy.